tinder disaster

I went on a date with a guy I met on Tinder. Upon meeting, I quickly noticed that he didn't look much like his profile pictures, but he was still cute so I didn't worry about it. He asked if I would like to go for a ride on his motorcycle, and of course I said yes! We rode a few miles up to a park. While talking at the park he told me about how he had crashed on his motorcycle SEVERAL times, which resulted in a few broken bones (note to all boys, do NOT tell a girl how many times you've crashed anything when she's riding with you). Now I was terrified to get back on his motorcycle, and the ride back to his place felt horribly long. After our trip to the park, we went out to lunch where he then disclosed to me that he had been married before, but only for a year. This came as a shock. Now I have nothing against men who are divorced, but given that I was still in my early 20's and had never been married myself, I was nervous about starting a relationship with someone who appeared to have a lot of baggage. The rest of lunch was fine, but then that evening we went on a double date (with two of my friends) to a drive-in movie. He complained the whole night and that the car was too small several times (we were in a large suburban), and I was really embarrassed because my friend had gone through the trouble of borrowing the suburban from his parents, and here was my date being incredibly rude. After the movie we went home and after an awkward hug (pretty sure he wanted a kiss) I said I would message him the next day, which I never did.

two to tinder

tinder disappoints

I matched with a guy on Tinder and we messaged each other for a few days. I wanted to get coffee with him, so I friended him on Facebook just to make sure he wasn't crazy or anything. While combing through his Facebook, I learned that he had a pregnant girlfriend. I messaged him about it and he tried to make up excuses. Basically he was planning on being a dead beat dad and in his head that was perfectly acceptable. I told him I wasn't interested in someone who would abandon their child and stopped messaging him.

tinder me shivers

One day I got bored at work so I got on Tinder and started messaging FOUR boys that had caught my eye. After a few days of messaging back and forth, I decided to meet one of them. Guy 1.

So as paranoid as I am, I Facebook stalked this guy thoroughly before making my way down to Provo. He passed the test and I headed down to his apartment. I met him and his roommates. Turned out that Guy 2 was Guy 1's roommate. HA.

Guy 1 and I headed over to Awful Waffle to chit chat over waffles. Conversation went great as we got to know each other. We then went back to his apartment and watched a documentary. During the movie, he wrote a note on his phone and asked me if we could snuggle. We snuggled and hugged a few times at my departure.

When I got home I got a message from Guy 3 saying "Umm were you at Awful Waffle tonight?!" He saw me on the date with Guy 1.. Awkward.

Anyway, since my first Tinder experience were pretty good, I decided to meet one more. So the next weekend, I was heading up to Logan and decided to meet Guy 4. We went and got frozen yogurt, went to the football stadium to throw a football around then watched a movie and had a good time hanging out.

Anyway the moral of this story is that Tinder is such a small world. Too small for my taste! Turned out that all four of the guys I had messaged were connected in some sort! Here's the biggest shocker. Guy 4 was actually companions with Guy 1 for EIGHT MONTHS on their missions. How did that happen? Guy 1 was in Provo and Guy 4 was in Logan. I thought I was for sure safe on the small world department since its 100 miles away. That's just my luck I guess.

Guy 1- main guy

Guy 2- Guy 1's freaking roommate

Guy 3- the guy that saw Guy 1 and I at Awful Waffle

Guy 4- the guy in Logan that was COMPANIONS with Guy 1 for eight months

Anyway, there's more. I was talking to my cousin about Guy 1 and how fun that date was and she replied, "Guy 1??? Does he have glasses??? And brown hair?" I literally DIED after that. We were both talking to the same guy. We both laughed over the phone for a good half hour. Like I said, Tinder is too small of a world.

After that little debacle, I came to the conclusion that I was officially done.

Bye Tinder, we had a good run. Thanks for the laughs!

tinder mercies

I first heard about Tinder through one of my friends. I was up at college and she convinced me to download it. Soon it became a game and we would send screen shots of all the weirdos on there, as well as try to match with all the hotties. 

Little did I know I swiped right on the right guy. Since it is hooked to your Facebook account I forgot about my little bio I had on Facebook when I first created my account. My bio said something to the effect of me liking pickles. {yeah i was slightly embarrassed when i found out...and it would not delete no matter what I did. So I came to terms with it}. After awhile of swiping I got a message from this guy saying, "hey I like pickles too!" And he was dang attractive! So he could have said anything to me and it would have been fine! We started messaging back and forth and after awhile we started texting all the time.

We started talking about our interests and soon found out we liked the same kind of music. My favorite band was playing that night at The Great Salt Air and he asked if I was going. I said I wasn't because I didn't have anyone to go with. 15 minutes later his name popped up on my screen calling me. I almost didn't answer because I was super nervous to talk to him! Finally I answered and he asked if I wanted to go to the concert with him and a couple friends! Because one of his favorite bands was playing to. {It was A Day To Remember and Of Mice & Men}.

I said I would think about it and call him back...My roommates didn't want me to go because they thought I would end up dead by the end of the night...but on the other hand I really wanted to go to the concert. After freaking out because I had never met anyone off of Tinder {and he is the only one I have ever gone out with off of Tinder}...I decided to go. It probably wasn't the best idea I've ever had, but it ended up being awesome! 

Since I was up at school at Utah State and he was at UVU I had to drive to The Great Salt Air and meet him. Which I was okay with, because it gave me an excuse to leave if I wanted to and when I wanted to. Also I figured a concert was a pretty public place so if he turned out to be a creep in real life, I could just dash away into the crowd and never see him again. 

So I drove myself there and almost peed my pants a thousand times because I was so dang nervous. 

Once I go there I waited in my car until he got there. Then he called me and told me to come find him in line. My first thoughts, "That's dumb. Make me drive all the way here and then I also have to come find you. Classy...At least its a free concert."

I got up the courage to go find him and when I did he gave me the most awkward side hug of my life. We have discussed it, it's so true. Then we got into the concert and made our way to the front. We totally held hands and it was the best. And he wasn't a creeper...Yet.

We ended up having a blast and I didn't ditch him. He was very impressed with my musical selection, and was even more surprised when I actually knew the words. The concert basically sealed our fate.

When it was over he walked me to my car and ended our date with a hug. Totally fine with me. Who knew who he really was outside of concerts. Then I drove myself back to school so dang happy and with ringing ears!

After meeting him in real life it was non-stop conversations and never ending attachments at the hip. He came to visit me up at school the day after the concert and we went on a real date a couple days later. We even smooched {ow ow!}

A few months after we started dating, we got engaged, then we got married a few months after that. It totally worked! And it has been working for 2 1/2 years. Still going strong. Tinder works sometimes people... but you can also use it to just laugh at all the funnies on there.

So thankful for #TinderMercies.

it was destiny

I loved Tinder and I thought it was a fun game. I never really took it seriously, trying to match with everyone. Jess did Tinder for fun too. Honestly, Tinder is as good as you make it.. We talked on tinder for about 2 months on and off. I had some pretty good pick up lines I used on Tinder like, "Are you my Tinderella?" She couldn't resist my charming wit. For Fall break I was planning a camping trip to Sand Hollow with a bunch of friends. I messaged Jess on Tinder seeing what she had planned for Fall break and she was actually going camping for the break too! I asked her where she was going and she said a friend invited her to Sand Hollow. I was like, "NOOOO WAYYYYY!!! I'm going to Sand Hollow too." And she said her friend Janice Smith (fake name for safety) invited her. And I was like "WOAH! I invited Janice Smith to come camping with us!" So Jess was coming on the camping trip I had planned. It was destiny. Meant to be. She actually ended up not coming on the camping trip, but when I got back from the trip I asked her on a date to a haunted house. It was around 3 weeks after our first kiss when we became "official." We dated for 6 months when we got married! Jess always lets me tell the story on how we met. I get excited when people ask and I love telling the story. Everybody should try Tinder!

he swiped off of her feet

Q: What were your intentions/ reasons when downloading Tinder? What were your fiance's?

A: I downloaded Tinder because everyone was talking about it and I wanted to see what all the fuss was about. My fiance was on it to actually meet people to date. 

Q: Did you think the app was a great tool or a bit sketchy?

A: I thought the app was pretty sketchy at first because everyone was just wanting to meet the second that we matched. As I was able to identify who actually wanted to date and who just wanted to hook up, I was more comfortable using it and going on dates.

Q: How did you feel about meeting people from Tinder/your fiance in person?

A: I was nervous meeting anyone at first. Along with first date butterflies, you fear the unknown of who this person really is.

Q: How long did you chat on Tinder before meeting? How was the first date?

A: I matched with my fiance and we talked for just under a month before going on our first date. I didn't even give him my phone number until the day of our date.

Q: How was the first date? When did you know he was "The One?"

A: The first date was nice. We went to Applebees so it was super casual and we talked for a long time just getting to know each other face to face. After our first date, we hung out almost every day. I was definitely falling head over heels for this guy and I was surprised because all my other Tinder dates weren't as successful. I wanted to continue dating him, but I didn't know he was "the one" until we had dated for a few months.

Q: How long after your first kiss, officially started dating, and getting engaged?

A: We actually kissed on the first date but I initiated it.. haha. We didn't become official until one month and two days after our first date. He proposed to me on the year mark of us matching on Tinder. He is in the military so getting married young and quickly is normal. By the time we get married we will have dated for a year and a half.

Q: Is it embarrassing when people ask you how you and your fiance met? What do you say?

A: I don't get embarrassed by telling people we met on Tinder. I get embarrassed for others being judging and closed minded. Of course there are scary people on Tinder, but there are scary people everywhere you go. I am super grateful for Tinder. My fiance lived 20 miles away from me and without Tinder we probably would have never met.

Q: What do you think about Tinder? Would you recommend Tinder to others?

A: I think Tinder can be great, people obviously use it for different reasons, if you're looking to hook up with people, it's a great resource. If you're looking to actually date it can also be great if you use it correctly.